More about the Bachelorette and a young man…

What would a single woman of a certain age be called? A Bachelorette? Or does that sound too innocent, too young, too un-tested?

When you have been married and divorced or simply when you are older, whether you have ever been married or not, you have been around the block a few times. You have a keener character radar, I think. You know how people operate – the opposite sex, in particular.

So, Bachelor? Bachelorette?

Maybe something more like Courgareze (for a woman of a certain age) or Silverfoxer (for a man)?

Forgive me, dear reader, but I am still glued to the TV on Monday night – not for Jon & Kate Plus Eight – although their spit is very sad and those kids of theirs are adorable – but to watch that Jilly of The Bachelorette take those dudes of hers through the beautiful scenery of British Columbia, and then the most stupid choices about who should get the cheesy rose!!!

Jake, dear sweet Jake, he of the airplane wings and sweet smile, was let go ??? Whaaat??? And Wes, the snake with the guitar, got to stay??? He even admitted in one of the show’s behind-the-scenes-just-with-the-guys interviews that he could “taste” the fame he will get from being on the show and that he had Jillian “wrapped around my little finger.” Big ick.

Jake even told Jilly his feelings, and he was sincere. Any woman could see that. Well, maybe it’s just that older women, like me, who know a thing or two about men, could see. And Jillian considers herself a good judge of character. Maybe she sees him as the “ultra safe guy” – his own take on what she might think. But he is good. He is sweet. He would marry her. Jake and Jilly went up the hilly in the Rockies….All the poor guy can talk about is how great their first date was. He remembers it like it was the best thing in his life. Pick him! Pick him!

What I know, and maybe most divorced people know this, too, is that you should go for kindness in marriage, not how expertly, how charmingly, the men sweep you off your feet. The charmers almost always are that way because they have some twisted inner behaviour to hide. They compensate for their twisted hearts and minds by being smooth, gallant masters of the grand gesture on the exterior.

Phew! That felt better getting that off my chest.

Still, she was able to jettison Tanner P, he of the foot fetish and strange underwear. “That’s what Daddy wears,” he said when he dropped his pants and paraded in front of the group in his underwear. (He was also sporting some wood, by the way.) Jilly was just “not ready to see their packages” she said sweetly, while adding that his was “huge,” because, hey, we all noticed that she was peeking from behind her hands, which she put over her eyes in a show of demure Bachelorette-ness.

Then, Reid. Well, don’t get me started. He actually had a heart-to-heart with the train personnel guy, up there in the Rockies, about whether he should wear his glasses on his one-on-one date with Jillian. Please. Be a man! Don’t wimp out to the conductor! Where is your inner lumberjack?

My bet? Jake is going to march back into the show next week, and plead his case in his pilot uniform.

I must have men on the mind, or any news of available ones, I mean, even if they’re only on a TV show.

I have been going through an extended “dating dry spell,” if you must know.

Although…come to think of it…there is this 24-year-old young man, who came by my house the other week, to pick up a piece of furniture that he needed and I wanted to get rid of  which he had heard about through one of my neighbours – and hey, he was very cute. And we talked for about four hours. FOUR hours. Effortlessly. Alone in my house. About all manner of things. Work. Life. The world. Love. Finding one’s path. And next week, he is coming for a little supper chez Gracie, who is twice, yes, twice, his age.

I will report all, I promise.

He has a girlfriend, though. But still. Should I care? I don’t want a relationship with him. I want…..

But then, maybe he just likes the conversation. Do you think? Does a 24-year-old man come to a woman of a certain age’s house for conversation? I felt an instant connection to him, because he is intelligent, searching a bit, and smart emotionally. I did feel chemistry. But come on….I could be his mother.

You can see that I feel a little hesitation, and then another part of me thinks, ‘What the hell, just see where it takes you…’

This Courgareze is going to be wearing her best little sundress as she stirs up her sauce.